Your first time having lesbian sex , or girl-on-girl slash vulva-on-vulva sex, can be pretty nerve racking and daunting. No matter how confident you are, or how much lesbian porn you've watched which FYI, is not realistic AT ALL all vaginas are different and like to stimulated in different ways. So if you're in need of some tips on how to have sex with a girl or vulva-having person, here's what you need to know - from how to beat the nerves, to which lesbian sex positions to try. I know you're thinking,"How on earth will I know what to do? If you've had male or penis-having sexual partners before, that may help inform a fair bit of what you do, but it still might feel strange to be giving what you have previously received.

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Having sex for the first time can be a little nerve-racking, no matter who you are or who you want to have sex with. For example, they could identify as bisexual , pansexual, queer, or even heterosexual. It also includes other people who have vaginas, people with penises, and people with intersex genitalia. Heterosexual couples, for example, may have oral, manual, or penetrative sex. It all depends on the couple and what they like to do. Through school, the media, and our communities, most of us learn that sex is about a penis entering a vagina.
I remember overhearing a woman ask another woman this in a downtown Manhattan coffee shop when I was a little kid. I was maybe 10 years old, but I totally got what she was saying and totally agreed, silently, in my head. I was in the "Gay Straight Alliance" at that time, and we took a field trip to a liberal arts university for the event. I wasn't "out" yet, just an overzealous "ally" to my queer brothers and sisters. I had just kissed a girl for the first time and was pretty sure I was gay but didn't dare say a word to anyone about it.